In a Young Women's lesson, the subject of desirable characteristics of a wife relating to the document, The Family, A Proclamation to the World, was discussed.
In thinking about possible tangents that could be taken on this subject from a group of girls, I thought it a responsibility to share what I think is a correct direction for girls to ponder as they decide for themselves what characteristics they would like to acquire. Any in-depth conversation isn't discussed in a young women's class, and can be discussed at home, which we did.
All of these ideas presented are mine, and I would appreciate comments.
First, is the focus of what a wife's perspective should be. Her direction centers on her husband. Everything she does relates to him, his comfort, appearance, and happiness. She wants to take care of him to the best of her ability, because he takes care of her to the best of his ability. Other distractions are minor compared to her husband. She wants to be one with him, which she will learn more about as she grows up. She wants to be there when he gets off work, when he comes home from church meetings, and she wants to go with him wherever he goes. He is her everything! (more about this in other posts, as I remember...)
Another young women's lesson which our girls have heard deals with a question that is presented: "Are your parents perfect?" This question made me livid! I don't want any of my children thinking I'm not perfect. I know they are aware of my faults, (it's natural) but in their minds, I want nothing but perfection to float in their thoughts. And you, as mothers, should require the same thing. To think otherwise, invites young minds to question everything that mothers do, which, in turn, grants permission for undesirable behavior. That question ("are your parents perfect?") allows young women to wipe out everything their mothers taught them in the past, and replace it with what their friends currently believe.
2 comments:
We talked today about this same thing!
In our lesson we talked about the role of women. Married, single, or young woman.
We discussed the focus is to become like the Savior. What does He expect from me in fulfilling my role?
Some great ideas shared were:
To be articulate. Be sure and clear on what you believe now and SAY IT. Be a sweet and strong support to your husband, when the time comes. Be confident and nurturing in the teaching of your children.
We determined it is absolutely essential to know with a surety what Heavenly Father expects of us as women. It is what we will be held accountable for and what we need to spend all our efforts on learning and understanding.
When mistakes are made, the focus is to pick yourself up and move upward. When you learn and understand how to be better in your role, focus on the direction rather than getting lost in time wasted, self pity, or being emotional.
Lastly, always talk to our Heavenly Father through the highs and lows of learning. Keep that relationship strong and open.
I love talking about this! An hour lesson at church is just too short.
I really like and appreciate your post.Thanks Again. Keep writing.
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